Here is the rule to remember in the future, When anything tempts you to be bitter: not, ‘This is a misfortune’ but ‘To bear this worthily is good fortune. 

Marcus Aurelius


3 Ways to Change “The Story” of Your Life According to Marcus Aurelius

Hello Beautiful,

Have you ever heard someone say, “And that’s the story of my life….?” Have you ever noticed that it usually is connected to a negative storyline? We all can tell multiple stories about our lives.

Some are sob stories that connect one injustice or struggle to the next. We can also tell the story that we are unstoppable, resilient, and growing in the midst of trials. Today, I would like to explore how you can create a story worth celebrating.

Acknowledge the Trials

You can honor the struggles without letting them be the defining narrative. Tragedy and injustice are real. But they don’t have to be the most powerful part of your story. They can serve as facts you acknowledge, without being the all powerful limiting factors of your story. Instead, you can focus on how you became resourceful and determined to rise above them.

“The best revenge is not to be like your enemy” -Marcus Aurelius

Transcend the Trials

You may have heard the phrase, “You can’t keep a good (wo)man down.” We gain strength and honor by rising above our circumstances. Indeed, the greatest honor is to use difficulties to become unstoppable.

“Here is the rule to remember in the future, When anything tempts you to be bitter: not, ‘This is a misfortune’ but ‘To bear this worthily is good fortune.”- Marcus Aurelius

Savor the Challenge

We can choose to look for the way to turn our “misfortune” on its head and let it become our opportunity. Yes, we may need to grieve it for a while. Yes, we may need to pause and catch our breath for a time. But, after a little while we need to decide what to do with what just happened.

We can choose to let it define us as the victim of the story or as the heroine of the story. This is where our Spiritual life is key. It is only with a view big enough to encompass design, purpose, and redemption that we can really do the heavy lifting needed to alchemize our story into something inspiring (literally “filled with Spirit”).

“Throw me to the wolves and I will return leading the pack” -Marcus Aurelius

These are intense times we live in. Challenges abound. It’s up to us to find how we are going to move through this time in our lives and in the world.

We can “leak” our focus out into discouragement and endless grief or we can acknowledge the challenge, rise above the victim narrative, and become the leader we are being asked to become.

For all of our sakes, I am praying you will find the strength to embrace the ache and turn that goo you are rolling around in, into the body of the butterfly you can become!

Cheering you on,


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I like to show people how to make their lifestyle choices create value over time rather than create a burden.


Aging is Like Interest—Are you adding value or adding debt?

Hello Beautiful,

One of my favorite topics to coach people around is their mindset on aging. We all get to decide whether to age accidentally or intentionally.

Aging doesn’t “happen” to us. It is the aggregation of our own choices. That compounding effect is like interest. It can work for you in an investment or against you in debt.

Many people expect to have less energy, reduced range of motion, diminished vitality, and entrenched health restrictions accruing over the coming decades.

Most people live into that expectation. Because they feel it is inevitable, they don’t take the actions they could to prevent or reverse this reality.

Our responsiveness to the changes in our body, over time, can create a deep and useful dialogue at every age about what is working well, what needs attention, and new options for resolving health challenges.

With age, we do need to refine our approach to fitness, to nutrition, recovery, and supplementation. Those changes are dialed in on a personal level, so you find what serves your unique constitution best. With skilled guidance and intuitive shifts in habits, you can alter your approach to meet your body’s changing needs.

Aging wisely, beautifully, and healthily is a core value in my life and in my work with women who want to find greater clarity and renewed vitality. When we set the expectation that our prime is always ahead of us (rather than in the past), we start to take more motivated actions to live into that expectation.

Our beliefs about aging, and the consequent choices we make, are potent factors in creating our lived experience.

I want to encourage you to find role models for the decades to come. Look for people who have the beauty, the radiance, the fitness, the vitality, the sparkle in their eye, that you would dream of for your own future. Try to learn how they created those outcomes.

Experiment and modify your own choices to be more in alignment with those habits. Listen to your body, do your research, and most of all, set a higher hope for yourself…and choose to live into it!

If you would like my help on your journey to aging optimally, please reach out or browse my courses.

Cheering you on,


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No one will keep you healthy but you. You have to prioritize and habitualize what serves your long term interest. Every habit you uplevel is a gift to your future self. Love Her. Give Her a healthy and beautiful body to live in.


4 Keys to being your best in 2024

Hello Beautiful,

I am often asked which habits make the biggest difference in aging well. While there is no magic lever (it’s more of a large dashboard of levers to adjust skillfully over time), several habits have exponential value in increasing your vitality over the long run. Here are a few of the most essential habits:

#1 Getting a Lot of Greens

I aim for 36oz of green liquid per day. It’s usually 12oz of water/greens superfood powder first thing in the morning, then a midmorning ceremonial grade (ultra high anti-oxidant) matcha tea (Nekohama brand), and a mid afternoon green juice. I also average a small salad at lunch and a mixed vegetable soup or stir-fry at dinner.

Eating a lot of greens is key to aging slowly for several reasons.The Chlorophyll in green foods is a blood purifier. The minerals in the vegetables aid in optimal function of all organs and tissues. The alkalinity of the greens helps balance the body’s chemistry to reduce inflammation.

The fiber improves gut health and elimination. And the high water content of the vegetables gets hydration into the cells efficiently, which helps you *glow*.

#2 Quieting the Mind

Our thoughts are the main source of stress in our life. Not our circumstances, but our thoughts. Our mind is always telling us a story about our experience. Research shows that for the average person 80% of our thoughts are negative!

If we have 80% negative (frustrated, powerless, critical, and angry thoughts) thoughts, we are flooding our body with cortisol and other inflammatory chemicals. We are seeing the world through a lens that isn’t constructive. We may need to set boundaries, change circumstances, or alter relationship patterns to improve our life.

In order to do that, we need to see clearly what our options are and what changes we are responsible to make. If we are stuck in the same thought patterns, we will not be able to see our options. Learning to quiet the mind allows us to get out of our habituated perceptions and reactions.

We can then see more clearly, hear Divine guidance, and begin to reprogram our mind towards constructive thoughts, rather than a negativity bias. The fountain of youth is likely situated between your ears….it’s where change begins.

#3 Jumping and Agility Training

Sarcopenia (loss of muscle mass) is the first sign of aging. We especially tend to loose more Type 2 muscle fibers with each year in midlife and beyond. These fibers are responsible for acceleration and deceleration. When we jump, we access this explosive power and preserve these muscle fibers.

I do jump squats, lateral jumping exercises, and use my rebounder often. When we add a co-ordination component (aka Agility training) we engage our proprioception (knowing and controlling where we are in space), our co-ordination, and our ability to recover from being off balance and regain stability.

In combination, these skills will give us a solid foundation to reduce the risk of falls (and the associated risk of injury/hospitalization) as we age. They also build bone density and help us move with more assurance and grace.

#4 Jade Egg Pelvic Floor Training

Few people experience notable improvement to their pelvic floor with Kegel exercises. There are several reasons for this.

Firstly, it’s common for people to do them incorrectly, bearing down rather than drawing up with the contractions. Secondly, squeezing and releasing a muscle set is a very limited way to build strength anywhere in your body. Lastly, without adding weight and a tool to build proprioception (your accurate sense of muscle use and co-ordination), you won’t change any muscles in your body very much.

The use of the Jade Egg at first, is to build co-ordination of the muscles in the pelvic floor and build a baseline of strength. And then, we use the jade egg with weights added (to increase strength, build muscle, increase blood flow, and regenerate tissue).

If you want to do jumping and agility training, you may need to do this step first! All women should be able to run and jump without leaking urine, lubricate well from within (even at midlife and beyond), and avoid or rehabilitate pelvic organ prolapse. If you want instruction on this practice, please look into my course Sensuous Strength.

No one will keep you healthy but you. You have to prioritize and habitualize what serves your long term interest. Every habit you up level is a gift to your future self. Love Her. Give Her a healthy and beautiful body to live in.

Invest in your future body like you do in your retirement investment account. Creating wonderful habits builds “health capital” for your future. There is no time like the present to begin again or to take your health to the next level.

If you want support in your journey, try one of my courses or work with me personally. I would love to help you break through to the next level of awesome!

Cheering You On!


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No healing can happen outside of radical honesty. If you can’t bear to hear the truth. You aren’t ready to heal.


All Healing is Relational

Hello Beautiful,

I hope your holidays have been full of joy and connection! Remember to give yourself extra rest and choose to prioritize simplicity as we are now firmly in the season of rest. Winter is a time of paring down. Just as nature has shed her lovely leaves and blossoms in exchange for deepening her roots, you are meant to do the same.

It takes courage to do that. Everything around us re enforces the idea that being relevant and potent is linked to our constant engagement with information and with activity. But, how true is this? The Divine design shows us that there is only so much we can grow above ground in a year. We see this growth in Spring and Summer.

What we don’t see, but is equally part of the growth cycle, is the growth below ground that happens in the rest seasons of Fall and Winter. The roots are expanding and deepening. Anchoring and integration are happening.

We are wise to value the inner work of intentional rest. It is  important to differentiate this from the distraction/entertainment most people consider their “down time”. Rest is a reduction in stimulus for the purpose of regeneration and integration.

Entertainment is taking in sights and sounds to experience (virtually while watching or listening to programs or in person- in a playing games) something. Both entertainment and rest have value. Our culture conflates the two into one thing-entertainment-and puts little or no value on true rest.

Healing requires rest. If you or a loved one has ever had a significant illness to heal, rest is one of the key ingredients to do so. Rest allows the rebuilding and reflection needed to heal. Healing is not done in isolation. Healing is always the reconnection of systems within the body to one another.

For example, a build up of lymphatic fluid needs to be in proper relationship with the rest of the body. The lymphatic fluid needs to be moved into the circulatory system so that it can properly be circulated and released from the body.

I am always helping clients see how healing is about balancing a relationship. It might be a relationship between yourself and rest that has been imbalanced. It might be a relationship that has been compromised around a lack of healthy boundaries.

It might be poor boundaries with yourself around when to stop (eating/drinking/talking/working) or in relationship with another person or in staying true to yourself in a particular type of situation.

Healing requires the ability to be part of the whole (within a body, within a relationship, within a community) yet not abandon your specific function (as an organ, as a woman, as a citizen). The balance between your individuality and your roll within the larger context is key.

Healing relationships takes courage. Few people are willing to pay the price to heal. We must face our personal responsibility and the ultimatum of change rather than nuzzle into the hypnotizing lure of a quick fix or blaming others.

Rather than getting a cosmetic procedure, we can address the cause of the muscular contraction (which is both psychological and physical—i.e. muscular gripping from the upper back and neck traveling up the back of the occipital ridge and scalp… that manifests visually as a wanted facial lines). Just like headaches often worsen with cosmetic fillers/injections, our underlying tension, when not addressed, just compounds.

In interpersonal relationships this looks like having the courageous conversations. Asking “is there anything I have done that hurt you, that when you think about it, still hurts you?” Is a good start.

Being willing to hear the answer, not justify or explain, and offer a sincere apology— is something we have to be willing to do if we want to clear the “film” in our closest relationships. Healing the unspoken wounds makes intimacy possible. Relationships require this kind of maintenance over time in order to stay clear and vital.

I have had these conversations this year with my family. At times it was difficult to hear the answer. It was a very courageous thing. I am proud that I did, how I handled it, and especially of the immensely positive impact that level of courage, humility, and unconditional love had on the relationships.

Not asking, not knowing, not owning our part, and not demonstrating willingness to change will only keep you “safe” in perpetuating a distance where intimacy isn’t possible. Without intimacy, relationships are burdensome rather than life giving.

No healing can happen outside of radical honesty. If you can’t bear to hear the truth. You aren’t ready to heal. All healing is relational. Nothing is truly healed without the courage to right a relationship. The body’s symptoms can be “managed” but with a list of ongoing side effects. A relationship can limp along, avoiding key areas of tension, but it won’t be healthy. It, too, will be managed.

Are you tired of “managing”? Managing is exhausting! It’s an endless shuffle of pills, injections, and relational avoidance. What is the alternative? The courage to face the root causes of the ailment is required. This is not a quick fix but it’s a true fix. You will heal many peripheral issues along the way.

You will gain expanding levels of health, rather than the slow march into powerlessness in relationship to your body. You will gain true and deep connections with your loved ones. You will look people in the eye with depth because you are right within your Soul. You have done the key work, not just to appear better, but to be more whole.

I want this for you in 2024. If you are interested in doing this work with the help of a mentor, I would love to work with you one on one. If you are interested in a group coaching offering, reply to this email and let me known that you would like to be a part of this in the coming year.

However you decide to pursue this root cause, relational healing, know that you have a cheerleader in me. I celebrate your courage, your resolve, your openness, and your love. We need you to do this work, and to help heal yourself, your relationships, and our world.

In Reverence,


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Maybe it’s time to face the uncomfortable question of who you are outside of your sacrifices, your work, and your résumé of exemplary endurance.


Is this why you are feeling burned out?

Hello Beautiful,

As I have worked to balance my own tendency to overwork, and as I have helped my brave and brilliant clients rewire their patterns, a common thread has emerged. And, it’s not about getting more organized, nor can it be reduced to the need to scale back our schedules in hopes of finding some much needed downtime. The real reason is much more pernicious and it’s hidden behind a deep wound….

The reason most of us have struggled to stop over committing and over scheduling is that we are afraid our work is our worth. Simply telling someone to “get more strategic” or “more realistic with their time use” is missing the true sticking point. After decades of proving your worth through your work, a wise slogan won’t help you make the breakthrough your weary soul is longing for.

The very real need to feel loved and valued is being “protected” by your constant struggle (or your lived resignation) to keep swimming. You probably feel like you cannot (realistically) do anything differently. Yeah, sure, when —the kids are older/your financial situation improves/relational challenges subside—you will finally be in a situation with less resistance and you can make a few changes. That time never really comes.

But there is also the inner critic that secretly judges others who’s lives on shore seem too easy. We only have a few people to judge in this category- because most everyone is nearly being swept away by the current! We take some consolation that, although we are living in or near the border of burnout, at least we are super responsible, highly capable, and doing the right thing in our many commitments.

We likely came from a family, and especially a mother line, of people who could really bear down and make things happen. We have taken pride in, and formed our identity around, being the one most capable in the group. The one who could hold it together and soldier on no matter what life threw at her.

And I want to bow and say, “Well done. You did it. You proved it beyond the shadow of a doubt. Your “soldier on” muscles are impressive. They have carried you through many dark nights of the soul and gotten you here in one piece. I am proud of your endurance and discipline. Now it’s time for those muscles to take a rest. It’s time to develop the complimentary strength of healing, integration (on a deep level) of the lessons learned in the battles you fought, and turning that pain you endured into wisdom. Virtue comes in many forms—not just being the Martyr through every decade of life.

Maybe it’s time to face the uncomfortable question of who you are outside from your sacrifices, your work, and your résumé of exemplary  endurance. You may feel, that when you try to answer that question, you don’t have much to say.

You may feel that your work is and always will be your worth. If you couldn’t do anything for anyone from this day forward, how would you feel about yourself? Sister, you probably have accomplished a lot already. But, you likely are just getting started with what you can contribute to your family, community, and work.

That is why I want to offer: that it’s not an either/or choice. You can make great contributions, in a richly engage life. You can also live differently. You really can. A key component is the fuel you are burning as you live your days.

I call living from fear, duty, and emptiness burning dirty fuel. It clogs the engine it claims to deify- as the only possible way to live. It robs you of your joy. The years pass and you lose your spark.

“Dirty fuels that clog your engine”

fear-No one else will do it if I don’t!

duty-Feeling dragged along by life’s prior commitments.

  emptiness-If you stop, who will you be and how will you find value?

Instead, we want to burn clean fuel that let’s our engine run longer, cooler, and sustainably. Also, we can actually enjoy the journey! What is clean fuel and how do we live from it’s power? We need to balance purpose with pleasure, rest with activity, and assimilating our life’s experiences with creating new ones.

We aren’t choosing between a selfish life and one of service. We are choosing a life of Presence, peace, and power. We are far more impactful in our actions and our interactions when we have taken the time to prepare our hearts.

We prepare our hearts by pausing daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, annually! We build reflection (time with no inputs: not reading or listening to anything….silence), digestion (reflection in journaling and/or the counsel of wise people around us), and then making a considered plan of action.

We then live from this plan. It is a plan where we put first things first and then let the rest find a spot in good time. We create space in the morning to tune ourselves to the Divine chord. We set said time in the evening to learn from the experiences of the day and to digest them in our Being before letting them go to Grace as we rest for the night.

We re pattern our weekends to have time for honoring what was done well, learning from where we missed it, and being receptive to direction for the week to come. An hour or two is optimal, but start with less if you need to.

You may think, “Rachel, that all sounds lovely, but you don’t understand my life. I cannot realistically live like that. Although it sounds nice, it’s out of reach in my current life circumstance.”

I will tell you, from my experience over 20 years of working with women who were saying the same thing— until life knocked them over hard enough, that they were open to seeing things they couldn’t see before—that you are spending more time “cleaning up” or being injuring by your current default state, than you will spend in this pause and plan approach.

If you don’t take the time to consider your strategy and it’s sustainability, you will be overwhelmed and exhausted by responding to the way life unfolds. The first step is to believe that something different could work for you—and better than what you are currently doing. And, to begin renewing your mental patterning that conflates struggle with value.

When we choose effective action, balanced with replenishment, we are able to have the impact we crave to contribute as well as the wholeness of health, peace, and Presence. I want that for you!

Cheering you on,


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Our approach to ending the stalemate is 3 fold:
Empathy, Connection, and Boundaries


Ending Power Struggles and Building Connection

Hello Beautiful,

Whether it’s parenting a strong willed child or relating to a belligerent adult, power struggles can sap us of our energy and bring us to our knees in frustration. I want to share a few insights that have helped me in these situations, with the hope that they will aid you in your relationships….especially the challenging ones!

Ending the power struggle…

If we have a strong willed child and we attempt to dig our heals in even deeper or longer than they do, we are modeling the behavior that we are asking them to stop. I have come to see “strong willed children” as something else….namely “deeply committed to a cause.” This is, potentially, a very good thing. Yet, it requires some thoughtful engagement to navigate the intensity that it brings.

The key is to connect to the value behind the issue that is on the surface. When we can access what all the emotion and reaction is “protecting” we can better address the core concerns. The surface issue can better be navigated when the deeper issue is understood, acknowledged, and honored.

We begin by softening our heart and taking a few breaths. When we are able to be open enough to listen, we can prepare the soil of our hearts with some empathy. We might explore what they are likely facing and feeling and take a moment to honor the validity of that—even if how they are doing it is hurtful. When we no longer feel the need to fight and we can open to their experience in a genuine way, we are now ready to relate directly to them more successfully.

We might be able to initiate a conversation and hear more about their concerns. What are their priorities? What do they need and want? If we can make them feel seen and understood, they will respond differently and a creative solution that meets both our needs/standard and theirs can better be found. Removing the adversarial tone is the key to finding a win-win solution.

Our approach to ending the stalemate is 3 fold-

Empathy, Connection, and Boundaries

If we have been able to model empathy and express a genuine desire to create a win-win with the other person, we likely now have their ear to express our needs and desires as well. Hopefully, we have built the necessary good will by “going first” in pursuing their point of view and they are now ready to reciprocate.

Sometimes there is history in the relationship that makes one or both parties default to an adversarial relational pattern. Exploring the need for healing in the relationship is key if the dynamic is ongoing. Healing the root cause is the best way to not keep encountering this challenging way of interacting.

If there isn’t any history there, it’s an act of generosity of spirit to engage this person in a tender and constructive way. Maybe, you will be a key factor in helping them feel less hostile. At a minimum, you can keep from being brought into a power struggle that drains you and brings out the worst in you both.

Lastly, comes creating, communicating, and following through on boundaries. We need to be very clear on what we are asking for and communicate it to the other person. If they are able to agree to those terms, that’s wonderful! If they cannot, then you need to communicate what you will do in that situation.

Boundaries are not about telling other people what to do. They are about saying what we are going to do—and following through. It’s up to us to protect our time, energy, and belongings. If others aren’t willing to honor our requests, we owe it to ourselves to create a follow up plan and act on it.

Relating to people who are a little (or a lot) prickly can be challenging. But, if we use it as an opportunity to practice self awareness, align with empathy and kindness, and respect boundaries for ourselves and others, it can be a blessing in disguise. We all benefit from the “workout” of enhanced clarity, re-shaping our relational tendencies into useful patterns, and honoring boundaries.

It’s high level work, but the rewards are immense. To be able to de-escalate tension, lead with kindness, and be proactive instead of reactive is Gold. I hope you are inspired to go out and try these steps in a challenging relationship. Please let me know how it goes!

Cheering you on,


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A monthly pause will refresh, inspire, and guide you for the month ahead


Your Favorite Week of the Month – Really!

Hello Beautiful

Over a decade ago, I began a deeper dive into understanding “that time of the month” as it relates to optimizing wellness. It turns out, many cultures, throughout history have honored the time of a woman’s menstrual cycle as a time of rest, healing, and spiritual rejuvenation. This month, I would like to share with your about how you can support yourself during your period and transform that time into your favorite week of the month.

First, let’s acknowledge, that as women, our hormone levels go through 4 distinct phases each month. Each one has challenges and gifts within it. If we “turn our sail” so to speak , in order to “catch the wind” rather than try to paddle the boat against the wind, we save ourselves wasted effort and can benefit from the aid of nature’s direction.

The week of our period, is a week our body is giving us information about the health of  our liver (sore breasts  and breakouts indicate a congested liver), our gut health (bloating indicates an imbalance in the intestine), and how clear our detox pathways are (water retention, lower energy, and cramping all indicate exaggerated hormonal responses that show stress in the system). When we take our monthly PMS and period symptoms not as mere annoyances but as valuable information, we can take specific supportive action in service of rebalancing our system.

Changing to pasture raised, hormone free animal products can have a dramatic effect on PMS symptoms. When I was a teenager, I began my health journey and this is one of the first things I changed. I was amazed to no longer experience tender breasts and cramping within just a few months of making this important change.

Honestly, it’s a game changer. When PMS week and period week add up to a roughly half the month. If you are dealing with these common symptoms, it can make you feel bummed to have a period at all. That’s not how it was meant to be! We have hundreds of cycles in a lifetime and each one is a chance to better partner with our body for a monthly check up of sorts.

We can re-frame our discomfort as the equivalent of a smoke alarm going off -not a pleasant sound, but it gives us an important warning. There are many books that have been released over the past decade detailing even more about how to “read” your bodies symptoms and then take appropriate steps to better meet it’s needs. I encourage you to further educate yourself on your own body’s feedback and how you can respond with skill to come to better health each month.

When our “time of the month” isn’t characterized by pain and discomfort, it can then be what it was designed to be: a time of refreshment. Yes! Taking the first 3 days of your cycle and downshifting your intensity of exercise, getting more sleep, and doing some reflection are key ways to utilize this time as a monthly re-set.

For women who aren’t cycling, I encourage you to pick a regular 3 day pause each month. The new moon is an excellent time to align with the end of one cycle and prepare for the beginning of the next. Whenever you choose to take your Sacred Rest, know that it will yield exponential results if observed regularly. The whole family can take one together. This is a beautiful opportunity to bow to the Creator’s design of cyclical living and intentional rest.

Here are some more of my favorite restorative rituals:

1. Going to ged earlier and sleeping in is key. What a luxury to really get well rested for a few days! Use the time to deeply pause and support your body.

2. Less screen time and more quiet is beneficial. Use the time to minimize inputs and instead tune into your body, your emotions, mind, and Spirit. What are you hearing? What do you need to know? What do you need to shift?

3. Gentle daily movement rather than intense workouts are best. Take walks (preferably in nature). Do some gentle stretching. Swim or dance. Do some light weights or body weight only workouts. The point is to support your circulatory and lymphatic systems with gentle activity that improves circulation without overworking.

4. Reflect on last months wins and progress in key areas. Journal a few pages about what has moved forward or completed.

5. Pray and meditate to gain clarity on your priorities for doing and on new ways of Being for the month ahead. Are you feeling led to follow through and complete key projects? Are you being asked to be more flexible and less resistant to challenges? Each month I like to find a word/phrase that I wish to embody and 2-3 key projects to move forward.

These are a few of my key practices, but I have others I include as well. I hope you will create a list for yourself and give yourself the permission for a 72 hour reset each month. It is truly life changing! You will have less burnout, better health, and find that your growth in each area of your life accelerates as you give monthly attention to assessing what it and moving intentionally towards the progress you desire.

Start with 2 or 3 practices so you aren’t overwhelmed. Gradually, refine your approach. Some months you can rest and reflect luxuriously. Other months, non negotiable commitments coincide with your period and you may have a smaller set of practices.

Remeber, you can always take an extra gentle approach with yourself, and look for little ways to put into practice what you wish you could do on a grander scale. Don’t let this be something you judge yourself for doing poorly. Choose to use the time to better observe your state (body, soul, mind, Spirit) and make strategic adjustments for the next cycle.

Consider my Sacred Rest course as resource to support you in this effort. Helping women learn the language of their Being and re-orient to their True North is my passion. I offer 20 minute free discovery calls to see if personal mentorship sessions would be a good fit for you. Feel free to reach out and schedule a call with me to discuss your goals.

Cheering you on,


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Beauty is not just something we see, or even feel, it’s meant to be something we embody and live


Living A Beautiful Life

Hello Beautiful,

I would love to tell you a story about a magical evening in England years ago. It imprinted the compounded value of layering an artfully designed environment, extraordinary conversation, and an artful hostess…

It was a damp London evening. The Autumn leaves fell on the historic streets and the light began to transition from late afternoon into evening. My friend and I ventured around the corner and up the stone stairs of the elegant abode. We were welcomed into the classic foyer-candlelight dancing off the sconces and plush rugs under our feet.

The smell of a rich curry wafted from the kitchen. The tinkling of last minute preparations to complete the beautifully set table drew our attention down the hall and towards the dining room. What I saw, astounded me.

The dining room was an octagon of glass walls and ceilings with candles reflecting off every angle. The twinkling reflections of light everywhere were surreal. Enjoying a meal at the large round table, set beautifully with china and silver, in this environment, was a sensory feast.

What made the evening even more remarkable was the conversation around the table. An ambassador, an internationally acclaimed painter, an elite athlete, a philosopher, and an entrepreneur all shared in the evenings lively banter about the meaning of life, wild adventures, questions we held within our hearts, and plenty of lively stories and laughter.

As breathtaking as the venue was, it was the stage. Had we gotten on stage and been petty, sullen, or argumentative, the evening would have been disappointing or worse. The beautiful architecture, the carefully considered interior design, and the lovely menu served so elegantly couldn’t have made up for such human foibles.

For 7 years of my early adulthood, I worked in industries that create beauty through design. During my work in fashion (as a model in San Francisco and New York) and in interior design (in  a beautiful showroom and extraordinary properties around the fabled Sonoma and Napa Valley), I was surrounded with glamour, privilege, and beauty.

I loved the artistic process-the collaboration of elite skill sets brought out extraordinary talents and created breathtaking projects. Being around beauty is inspiring! The endless fountain of creativity is a source of wonder and delight. There’s always something new to appreciate.

Over time I saw the fact that the “stage” of beauty and inspiration was set but the “play” of the lives of so many people who enjoyed those settings was bereft of meaning and beauty.  I decided to transition from working in industries that create beauty for our lives towards helping people create beauty in their lives.

Beauty as a lived experience involves personal transformation and growth. Having the energy and flourishing in our body to enjoy those moments of sensory delight is key. Healing our relationship to time (by making peace with our schedules and making time for peace in our schedules) is a key part of this. Clarifying your life’s purpose and remodeling your calendar to be an accurate mirror of what you say you love is also key.

Luxurious Minimalism as a mindset that can be adopted to simplify in order to amplify enjoyment can be learned. Healing and integrating our life story so that we tenderly hold our pain in an embrace of redemptive meaning is an option. Healing our Spirit, nourishing our body, and creating an intentional life are all keys to living a beautiful life.

Now, I love helping clients unite their lived experience of intentionality and inner harmony within the most inspiring and delightful environment they can create. The meaning and the context in which life is lived both combine to elevate the day to day fulfillment of our lived experience.

Beauty is not just seen— it is felt. It is felt as harmony and inspiration. When we are in harmony with our life’s purpose and our life story….we live as beauty. We all crave beauty because it feeds our being in the deepest ways. The harmony of body, soul, and spirit multiply our beauty.

It’s my passion to help people grow into the fullness of their beauty and live in alignment with their purpose. Beauty is not just something we see, or even feel, it’s meant to be something we live.

Just like that magical dinner party in London, each of our lives is filled with moments we can fill with connection, curiosity, and meaning. A life intentionally lived is a beautiful thing.

Cheering you on,


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“With each step in the direction of Grace, you will find abundant evidence that this is the way you have always wanted to be, to live, and to relate. “


Becoming More Feminine

Hello Beautiful,

One of my favorite areas to coach women around is how to recover (or enhance) their femininity. I love being a woman and I grow more feminine each year. In a household of men (my husband and I have 6 sons!), I decided long ago, that the more male energy I was surrounded by, the more I needed to double down on my femininity. I saw that it was no use (and no fun) to try to operate in the way they did.

I needed a different approach altogether. I saw that we all enjoyed me more when I was sourcing my authority from a different way of being. Over the years, I have found many ways to dive deeper into my femininity. I have worked to remodel my approaches that are “force on force” ways of navigating the areas of parenting or marriage. As I more deeply embody my feminine strength, I find more connection to myself and in my relationships. I also find more ease and flow in my day to day life. This is the power of the feminine energy…to connect, to inspire, and be a force multiplier.

It seems to me that when women entered the work force and leadership in the private and public centers, many felt they had to leave their greatest strengths at the door in order to conform to expectations and gain respect. This is understandable but also unsustainable. When we allow what we think others want (or what they may actually want) to override our fundamental expression of Being and reshape us, we forfeit our greatest assets.

As I mentioned earlier, some of the greatest strengths of the feminine are to connect, to inspire, and to uplift. I would like to elaborate a bit on these traits and how they are so essential to our world. When we embody and inspire these traits, we lead, follow, and collaborate at our best.


A woman is a powerful connector. We are naturally more socially collaborative and tend towards “tend and befriend” in our own stress management as well. But, it all starts with our innate connection to our Creator, our bodies, and nature. A woman’s power to connect is only as animated as the vitality of her own inner life, how she listens to and honors her own body’s signals, and how she syncs her life to the greater rhythm of nature around her.

When we prioritize our personal relationship to the Divine, nurturing rather than over riding our body’s, and humbly integrating to the daily, monthly, and seasonal shifts around us, we ally ourselves with the greatest forces of all.

From our connection, our undivided heart, and our connection to the Creator, we are able to transcend our own limitations and be of service. As we build our life around the value of connection, we learn that forcing—whether it’s not knowing when to let an argument rest, pushing ourselves to work when what we really need is 20 minutes of quiet to regroup, or not offering ourselves a rest until every last task is done—will kill our peace, our beauty, and our impact.

Through connection we let go of controlling so that we can enjoy the greater leverage of influence. The misuse of influence is manipulation. Manipulation is insincere and selfish. Influence is best used to nudge someone towards the choices that best serve their purpose and the general good. When we lead by being an example of connection and service, we help others step into their fullness as well.


When we inspire someone, we elevate them to see what they are capable of. We bring out the best in each person and elevate the environment as a whole. When we are radiant, operating from our center point, and elevating the conversation/standards for the good of the culture (of the room or of the country), we help others reach for their highest contribution and expression.

We help others shine and feel hopeful and confident in their capacity for excellence as well. People want to be at their best, and when your presence draws this out of them, they enjoy your presence. Women inspire others by being respectful of all life, nurturing those they encounter, by example and by action calling others up to their highest contribution.


When we no longer feel we must force all of our desired outcomes through sheer relentless will, we open the possibility of being a force multiplier. Surrender and the ability to receive are not passive/powerless traits but brave/impactful states of being.

When we take action in grace rather than out of fear, we are aligned with progress happening in and through us. When we trust that we will be cared for by our Creator as we take inspired action (not frenzied and reactively living our days), we find that we are lead to leveraged action and miraculous provisions.

Our ability to live in faith not fear, ease not dis-ease, is our superpower.

Of course, there are a number of other traits of elevated femininity, but these are a few key ones. When you find yourself relentlessly pushing yourself past your bodies cues for care, or trying to manipulate or force an outcome/response, or armoring your heart in interactions to protect yourself from disappointment, know that you can experiment with another way of being. It’s filled with grace, wisdom, and flow. It’s how we are meant to live. It’s women’s gift to the world to operate this way and share the bounty with all.

When we forget and return to old patterns, there’s no need to berate ourselves. Unlearning old patterns takes time. But, with each step in the direction of Grace, you will find abundant evidence that this is the way you have always wanted to be, to live, and to relate.

Cheering you on,


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“Each month you can revisit your top Being and Doing Goals and decide if they need another cycle of attention or if they are complete and you can move on to the next one.”


A Powerful New Approach for Goal Setting

Hello Beautiful,

Self respect grows when we know we can make and keep promises to ourselves and others. The better we get at this, the more confidence we build in ourselves and our relationships. When we can consistently create and achieve goals, we have a superpower and we can dream big because we know we will create micro goals that take us all the way to the finish line.

After years of studying, practicing, and consulting around goal setting, I have a unique strategy to share. It strikes the delicate balance between creating a compelling goal and sustaining progress at a level that doesn’t end in burnout and abandoning the whole thing.

The first step is to make an annual goals “wishlist”. Here you are going to write an unrealistic but comprehensive list of all that you aspire to. After you have written it all out, break it into 2 Broad categories: To Do and To Be .

In the To Do section, you can put personal projects, trips, career growth, home projects, financial goals, etc.. These goals require time, money, professional assistance, and freedom.

Saving or earning a certain amount, remodeling, international travel, and photo organization are all good examples of “doing” goals.

In the To Be section includes character growth and personal habits. These goals can be accomplished with no outside support. They are free and only dependent on your awareness and consistent efforts. Being more compassionate, going to bed earlier, improving your posture, breathing with awareness, and being on time are all good examples.

After bringing all goals to the table, take some time to reflect about your top 10 “Doing” goals and your top 5 “Being” goals. The Being goals are fewer because that level of change is more demanding.

We have 13 lunar cycles a year and for an average of 30 years, women have 13 periods per year. I take each menstrual cycle and pick one “Being” goal and 2-3 doing goals to focus on. I do this for 21 days. That gives me the last week to reflect on the next cycle and pause for review.

Earlier this year, several consecutive months had the “Being” goal to talk 50% less at home. I wanted to increase my being heard by being more selective and concise in my communication. I found it highly effective for improving this! Some of my doing goals included: doing 50 jump squats per day, reading a chapter of a book each day, organizing the storage room, creating and cooking a new seasonal meal rotation, and traveling.

Each month you can revisit your top Being and Doing Goals and decide if they need another cycle of attention or if they are complete and you can move on to the next one. If you do this for 13 consecutive cycles, at the end of a year, you will have made significant progress. I find that having my goals “chunked” in this way prevents overwhelm and keeps momentum going.

Cheering you on,


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