The One Thing You Cannot Delegate

Hello Loves,

As we begin the new year of 2021, many people (including me!) have their minds on what to prioritize for the coming year. I do believe in goals but they are nothing more than a wish list if we don’t create new habits to embody the changes we desire. While health, money, relationships, and career are favorite categories for making progress, I would like to suggest a different lens through which to view this decision: Being.

Everything can be delegated except being You. I mean, really being the You that you feel like you were meant to be. Perhaps my top priority in life is to be Myself. Not to be my reactive, historical, or conditioned self…but the woman I can uniquely embody. My greatest joys come from how I feel, and how I am able to serve, when being that woman. I love, love, love being around people that are passionately and uniquely themselves. Children, animals, and the bold, vulnerable, and creative among us show us what this is….and it’s why we feel drawn to them. They are free. They are not posturing for rank and posing for perceptions….they just Are. And it’s so inspiring and powerful.

Recently I was catching up with a friend and we were talking about a stressful time she was going through and all the myriad of things that need attention and change right now. It can feel overwhelming and discouraging —and we all have been there more than a few times! What came out of my mouth landed deeply for both of us (it bubbled out of me and landed brightly): “the only thing you really have to do is be YOU—everything else will fall into place.”

Let that land for a minute. Your top priority is to cultivate and embody the fullest, truest expression of You and out of that everything else will fall into place. In truth, every change we desire begins with being different….then taking action to create a new outcome. The being is first and foremost. A different way of being creates different actions that produce the desired results. The Divine spark shines differently through us all.

When you are You, you are in alignment to enjoy life and share your gifts with the world. When you feel out of sorts, it’s so much harder to do those things. So, what are the habits that you need to inculcate in order to give yourself a better chance of being You? What changes to your living and working environment need to be made in order to come into alignment with yourself? What failed approaches need to be retired and upgraded to life giving ones?

Some days we have the bandwidth, the intentionality, and circumstances align to make this all possible at a pretty high level. Other days, the best we can do is ask ourselves, moment to moment, “in this moment, how can I BE in the most loving and authentic way?” Whatever effort we make will move us forward. And, compassion is the best fertilizer for growth.

As you reflect on the year to come, I hope whatever you settle on deepens your traction towards being the unique gift You are to the world. We all need YOU and are begging you to show us who you really are….